So it appears that my husband’s brother’s live-in girlfriend C. has spitefully and on purpose thrown the only and original copy of our wedding video into the garbage, and it cannot be retrieved.
We will never see our wedding ceremony on tape. It is, of course, irreplacable.
Brian’s grandmother, who did not come to the wedding because of health problems, will never see our wedding ceremony.
My father’s wife who was also unable to attend, will never see our wedding ceremony.
All because of one selfish, petulant, immature piece of trash who had absolutely no business anywhere near that tape.
Why did she do it? Supposedly out of jealousy, maybe she is terribly unhappy about being young and unmarried with two children. Apparently she was upset that my mother-in-law (whom I adore) is preparing a keepsake box for me filled with Brian’s childhood mementos, and she didn’t get anything similar. But it makes one wonder, how does she get from that to destroying our wedding video, something that was priceless, something she had nothing to do with? Surely she must realize that it doesn’t just hurt me, but it hurts my whole family, and Brian’s whole family?
Nothing can be done about it now. I have a pretty good memory (though the day went by so fast that I do have trouble remembering much of it), and we have many great photos. But I was really looking forward to seeing that video. I was really looking forward to making copies for my parents. And I was looking forward to showing it to our children someday.
I’ll never forgive her. I have no reason to.
Jane, this is awful. i am so sorry. How did your brother in law react? by dumping her, i hope? what an awful thing.
I’m not sure yet, I’ve just heard the story secondhand from Brian. Just dumping her is not so easy for various reasons — they have a son together, and live together in a house owned by her father. But obviously she is totally classless.
It just makes me sick. I know it’s just a video and so on, but just the pettiness and awfulness behind the act is the worst part. Nevermind that it was “just” a video, make it any other priceless family artifact and it’s the same incredibly shitty thing to do.
Where she lives, is it legal to light someone on fire and push them into a pit of rotating knives? ‘Cause that’s what I’d suggest doing.
this sounds like a very good idea…
It’s definitely not just a video. That is pretty awful what she did. I’m so sorry.
Augh. I’m so sorry. That’s absolutely inexcusable.
I’m sorry…I know people will see this, but she’s a bitch for doing that. Complete, total, bitch.
It has always been weird with he said she said stuff that I keep hearing between C and Brian’s mom…but seriously, to me that’s the final straw in this matter. Absolutely disguisting how she could do that. I think she has mental problems…honestly…and needs to see someone about it because that is totally, totally f’d up. Sorry for getting so worked up about this matter, but I’m just seeing it from my own point of view and if it was me I’d be so furious.
Bitch.
on a less furious note, I’m so very sorry that she did this to you two. You’re both awesome people and don’t deserve anything of the sort whatsoever, never, not at all. =(
I’m glad someone else used the B word first, so when I say ‘that bitch!’ I feel less … um, bitchy. As has been said, it’s not just the video loss – horrible enough as that is – but the insult to you and the whole family, especially the grandmother who’ll never see it. It’s a sort of open-ended me-me-me-screw-everyone-else hostility that’s just insect-level petty.
Send her a note describing your feelings; make sure to put razor blades along the envelope’s edge where her fingers will pry it open …
how could anyone be so stupid?
I don’t if this will get posted, or if you’ll even see it – I’ve been reading your site for a little while, and I really enjoy it because you’re someone my age, newly married (I’m engaged), someone with something common to me in life that I don’t find a lot of in blogs – with this in mind, I just wanted you to know that hearing about what your brother’s girlfriend did to you and your family just made me sick to my stomach. I cannot imagine someone being so incrededibly self-centred, and I only wish there was something I could do to make it better or change it.
Again, I’m so sorry, and if you form a posse to go over to her house and take her out, count me in!!!
Chika.
That is awful, Jane. I’m so sorry. How is husband’s brother reacting to situation??
Totally unacceptable
Why would she do something like that?
Doesn’t she know that that’s something that will be hard to forgive?
What was she thinking?
what a terrible hag she is… I’m so sorry that this has happened to you. Seriously, that chick has a screw loose.
I’m so sorry
I agree with everything that has been said, she very definitely has issues that need serious therapy. It’s unfortunate that Brian’s brother has to keep connected to someone who is so self centered (read narcissist). Unfortunately true narcissists aren’t very cooperative with therapy (everyone else has the problem). Love, Mom