I got engaged on Saturday!!
And I couldn’t be happier. There is no one I would rather marry than Brian.
We are going to look at engagement rings tonight — no big gaudy overpriced diamond for me. I already have my eye on a lovely blue sapphire ring.
Our wedding will be small, non-traditional, and fun. I hope the planning is as painless as possible without actually eloping. Heh.
I’m just excited about our future together. We make a great team.
WOW!!
CONGRATS!!! thats wonderful jane, good for you!!! 🙂
Beautiful lilies! Thank you 🙂
Wowzer! Congrats! First gay marriages and then this, how will the institution of marriage survive??? : )
Yay Jane and Brian! I am so happy for you!
On an unrelated note, Ethan and I were ranking our “favorite cats that we don’t own” the other night (yes we are dorks) and simon and sash made both of our top 5s.
MEOW!!
Damn— Congratulations!!!!!
As one planning a wedding herself- my advice, freaking elope.
If not, here goes:
1. Pick your fights.
Mom/Dad/Future sister-in-law will have something to say about reception site/ceremony vows/bridesmaid dresses/places you register. Figure out what’s really important, then stick to your guns on that. Let the other arguments go.
2. Have a small guest list. Don’t know if you are paying for your own wedding, but we are. I promise it’ll make a huge difference.
3. Don’t be afraid to bargain. Just because the word “wedding” is slapped on your day, doesn’t mean you have to pay five times retail. Shop around for dresses, invitations, DJs, rings, photographers– deal with them, haggle, they do understand.
Much love,
C
Thanks!
Oh the mom advice has already begun 🙂
The guest list is only in my mind so far, but I think it will be hard to keep it very small unless we made a firm decision not to invite distant cousins or non-close friends. We’ll see.
I am definitely not buying into wedding industry stuff… I saw a dress I love on jcrew.com! And my good pal Rena actually has a business making beautiful creative wedding invites.
congratulations! that kicks ass.
Holy wow! Congrats Jane, that’s the neatest and sweetest thing I’ve heard all month.
Nothing but good wishes for you and the Bri-guy.
Sapphire is such a good choice. How funny that I got my gal a sapphire ring for Valentine’s Day.
😀
i proposed to my girlfriend as well and we are now engaged..and it happened on Saturday.
congratS!
Woo hoo! Congratulations to you too! Lovely.
hooray!
That’s terrific! Congrats to you both. 🙂
That’s so random! Er, not random – synchronous, actually. Because…
I was reading ert’s journal, then crossed over and read yours…saw ‘Monterey’ and ‘surprise’ and thought to myself (and even mentioned to Doug) “Wouldn’t it be neat if Jane got engaged on a trip to Monterey to the boy she met on nerve.com almost exactly a month after I got engaged on a trip to Monterey to a boy I met on nerve.com?”
And mauhahahaa I was right!
CONGRATULATIONS! – it’s obvious from reading your thoughts on the matter that you’re both prepared and excited for marriage – both neccesary, in my opinion.
Aww how faboo! Thank you 🙂 And congratulations!
I seem to recall seeing you at a party a couple years ago when you very first started seeing Doug and you were all gushy about him? Yay!!
I am still all gushy over my guy. I love that part.
I am going to friend thee, ok?
Yes, friend away!
It was Doug that I was gushy over at the Ariel party, yes. I’m even gushier now, and I don’t see an end to that – I love that, too.
congratulations to you and Brian.
This news has brought a smile to my face.
I wish you both every happiness in the future.
Re: who am i ?
thanks for your reply on my LJ.
we met once or twice, MANY years ago. I doubt you’ll remember.
this may explain it more.
YAY!!!
i am so happy for you janey. this spectacular news. way to go brian!!!
Re: YAY!!!
THANK YOU ERTIE!!
Me am berry happy.
I just wanted to say Congratulations to you and your boy.
congrats!
I am so happy for you both, and I better get invited! 😉
Of course, Brian has to buy me a ring too, just so I don’t get my feelings hurt. You can still marry him, though. 😉
the garter thing really works……
just wanted to say congrats. weddings are the awesomest (especially the simple ones). i did mine that way and i couldnt imagine having gone the other route. hearing that you make a great team makes me all sappy. my husband and i say the same thing about each other.
very excited for you!!!!!!!!!!
Re: the garter thing really works……
Thanks!! Gosh I hope we can keep it simple. I barely know where to start! What are some “simple” things you did?
Like, I know I will cut out many of the needless formalities.
Re: the garter thing really works……
sam and i said “we are going to vegas and we want people to come if they can.” it was as simple as that. i dont know how your family is going to be. my mom offered me 5 grand to have a civil ceremony, so obviously she wasnt all gung-ho to see her dtr have an elaborate wedding. as for my husband, his mom isnt the type to get involved so i really lucked out.
my friend designed an invitation then we just made color copies. my aunt is an excellent baker and made my cake as my wedding present. i used a friend as a photographer and thats the biggest thing im kicking myself over. im big on the idea of having friends take pictures, but if you do, make sure they know that you are going to want as many as possible (if you do, that is. i didnt think it mattered but i would have liked more…). videotapes are nice, too. one of the guys that plays poker at brians apt is a dj. you could always ask him if you needed one…
you seem like a very level headed person, with distinct tastes. (love the ring, btw. sapphires are great). just know your limits and stick to them. not buying a traditional dress helps a whole whole lot.
feel free to ask me anything, and im willing help out if you ever need assistance. i know i dont know you that well but im all about the both of you.
Re: the garter thing really works……
I don’t know how my family will be yet. Parents are both happy and excited, as is Brian’s mom. I doubt we will go out of town as neither of us like Vegas that much anyway.
Photographer is the only place I won’t cut any corners… I want to get a pro who has an excellent portfolio. Other places I hope to get friend’s help as much as I can, like a friend of mine whose bast friend is a caterer and cake-maker.
I doubt I will get a traditional gown, mainly as I can’t afford it and I hate 90% of the styles. I kinda know what I want and I saw it online for less than $300, so I’m stoked.
My brother is a jazz musician, but I would feel bad making him “work” throughout my wedding, but I’d like the music to be a small jazz combo and then possibly just hooking my 10,000 song ipod to a nice stereo and creating a lovely four-hour long playlist. Wooo!
Re: the garter thing really works……
oh i was fairly positive vegas wasnt an option for you guys. it worked for us since we are kitsch like that…
the girl i asked to take pictures is an excellent photographer (she also designed the invites). she took the best single picture that i will ever have of us. however, she spent more time taking pictures of people at her table then of sam and me. if you are getting a pro then you know you are going to be happy, which is worth it.
in any case, this is totally the time to cash in on the whole who-you-know thing.
ipod! good good good idea!